The men in a wedding tend to be overlooked a bit. All of the focus is on the bride, especially when it comes to the wedding ensemble. The groom and his attendants may not have as many options as the bride, but they can still add a dash of style to their suits with a handsome boutonniere.
There are almost as many choices for boutonnieres as there options for the bride's bouquet. In general, the boutonnieres worn by the men in the wedding party should coordinate with the rest of the flowers (sorry guys, I guess it is still all about the bride!). A nice way to tie in the lapel flowers with the bouquets and other floral displays is to choose one of the same blooms featured in the bride's flowers to use as the boutonniere.
Since the boutonnieres will be worn on the men's jackets, you will want to pick flowers that have some durability. Very fragile flowers will be crushed as the groom hugs his family and friends. Your florist can steer you toward those blooms that will last through the wedding day. Also be wary of any flowers that are likely to wilt when they are out of water for many hours, or those that are highly fragranced, which can be irritating if the groom or his groomsmen are sooner to allergies.
Usually, the boutonniere consist of a single flower, but you can also combine a few small elements to make a unique ornament. For instance, for an autumn wedding, you can wire an acorn into a spray of orange berries for a charming seasonal accent. A winter groom would look dashing sporting a small spray of pine with a few red berries and a single white flower. Just be sure to keep the boutonnieres from getting too large, or the men will refuse to wear them!
Sparkle is one of the hottest trends at weddings these days, and you see that carried into the boutonnieres. A simple rose can be dressed up with a string of tiny Swarovksi crystals wrapped around the stem. Or a few crystals can be wired into the center of an open flower. This is often a popular idea for the groom, and then the groomsmen will wear the same type of boutonniere without the crystal accents.
White is the most classic color for wedding boutonnieres, and it looks wonderfully crisp against a dark suit or tuxedo. Red is another excellent color idea. The more feminine colors such as pink or lilac may be a bit less appealing to your groom, so be sure to seek his opinion before ordering a flower for him in one of those colors. If you are planning to carry a bouquet of all pink roses, and your fiancé would not be worn dead wearing a pink flower on his lapel, you can always order the boutonnieres in the same type of flower, but in a more acceptable color to him , such as white.
It the traditional etiquette of wedding flowers, the bride's family pays for all of the flowers, except for the bride's bouquet, which is sometimes a gift from the groom. These days, things are a bit looser, especially as more couples finance their own weddings. It would be nice for the bride to give the groom his boutonniere, and then the groom can give the groomsmen their boutonnieres as a gift. (This is not to be confused with the main groomsmen gift, which should be something of valuable value, like silver cufflinks.)
The boutonniere is a small detail in the grand scheme of a wedding, to be sure. However, the boutonniere is one of the few bits of flair that the groom will get to wear, so it is important. Choose a lapel accent for him that is stylish and classic, and your groom will look even more handsome on your wedding day.